The most important thing in a relationship is the self. Ironic? This is because I truly believe that the individuals in the relationship should feel whole and be happy with themselves first before they are able to share themselves and take care of others. First, fill yourself with love until you genuinely feel good about yourself. Once you're ready to share yourself to another person, by all means, go! Give your all. Focus on that person and do not be bothered by anyone or anything else. You are continuously building a relationship with one person. So in your relationship, both of you come first, all other people come second.